Enjoying with your partner during the honeymoon days of marriage is exciting and blissful. Nothing else makes you happier than the presence of your partner in those days. To keep the delightful experience everlasting there are some tips to be remembered. The first few years of marriage lays the strong foundation for a successful and healthy relationship in the later years. Even in the case of marriage to a known person, living together is quite a different issue and it needs some initiatives to make it work out with the person you love and live.
Accept each other
The sweet nothings before marriage appear as harsh realities after a few days of marriage. Not to make it a dreadful affair, it totally lies in your hands. When the habits and life style of your spouse appear to be crazy and intimidating to you, do not get frustrated. Learn to accept and respect each other’s views. Do not make contradictory statements; rather try to reciprocate with a cheerful smile and a humorous joke. Love your partner unconditionally, without any limitations, as he/she is. Allow him/her to pursue his/her interests allowing yourself to follow your heart.
Respect your in-laws
Try to be practical and realistic. Expectations should be within the reach and specific. Show concern and care towards your in-laws as the elders are very much anxious about the approach and attitude of new entrant into their family. After all, they have selected him/her to keep up the prestige of their family. The responsibility is a little bit higher on the young brides when compared to the bridegrooms, according to Indian culture. It is up to the couple to decide about the limitations of interference of the third member between them, but never ignore the interests of the elders. Discuss with your partner whenever there is a problem and try to resolve the issue on a smooth plane. Decision making is an important factor in the family and the decisions made should not hurt the interests of the members of your family. Pay due respects to your elders, acknowledge their fears and apprehensions and interact with them frequently.
A bride transforms herself into a wife, a daughter-in-law and a mother and in due course the responsibilities also increase. The same happens with the bridegroom also. It is not a matter to become worried, frustrated and run away from the situation. Consequently, you must be happier to accept the new role and responsibility with added dignity and grace. Expectations might cause disappointments sometimes, but your approach towards work and sharing of responsibilities, both inside and outside your home will make your marriage an enlivening experience.
Yes! Money matters! It is important to have a plain discussion about income and expenditure. If you have any commitments, it is better to disclose them to your partner. Spending money wisely on the needs of the family and saving for the future depends on the prudent decisions of the couple. Your financial planning must be in tune with the growth of the family and children and it needs a thorough understanding between the couple. Spending on religious matters also is based on the fair perceptions of the couple towards each other.
I Love you more than the Argument
It’s not a matter of being right, rather being happy in a relationship matters more. To overcome the conflicts, it’s sometimes advisable to let the argument, let your ego go off the air. Being right might make you win the situation temporarily, but being happy is more significant and it gives you permanent joy. It does not mean that you need to yield yourself and give up your individuality for your partner, but sticking to your own principles, you can still try to avoid the breakup.
Give and take Space
To respect your spouse is to provide him/her with ample space. It is always quoted that it is important to give your loved one time and space to think, rather give up on them. It keeps your relationship lively and spirited.
Dance and Romance
To stay young and healthy in a growing relationship, remember to prioritize romance in your life. Just have a candle light dinner, enjoy a rain dance or take a long drive with your spouse which will enhance the beauty of the relationship and you will believe that he/she is there forever for you.
It has to be a true partnership, and you have to really, really like and respect the person you’re married to because it is a hard road. I mean, that’s what I tell young couples. Don’t expect it to be easy, melding two lives and trying to raise others, and doing it forever. I mean that’s a recipe made for disaster, so there are highs and lows. But if in the end you can look him in the eye and say, “I like you.”— Michelle Obama.